Wednesday, 26 June 2013

what we hold on to, what we let go off

As the seconds flutter by, the minutes stroll past, the hours melt away and so on, we find ourselves living our lives and being who we are with the type of lifestyles we have come to accept, whether by choice or by circumstance, we are there. We are all looking for our perfect way of living life and the right way to do things, but we rarely would know as we only get one shot realistically at living life. With this in mind i feel that we really are born with a basic instinct as to how we live life. Sure our ancestors didn't live the same way as us because of what we call knowledge and learning. Our ancestors learnt from their ancestors as we do from them, and in essence, we understand more things than they did, only because we have access to what they didn't. We could call that learning from experience on a macro scale. In life as humans, we have the ability to learn and then progress. Because we have learned how to efficiently stay alive with minimal effort, we then started learning to develop with things that caught out curiosities, and hence we know a wide variety of things because of experiments and research. With this learning and developing, i can come to my point which is that we still however have one life to live and we aspire to the best we can. With this realization, i went down a road of further thought on the things that affect us and the weight of it on our lives. We find that we can be emotionally affected by people who have a place in our lives. Even though we may have previously lived perfectly fine with our dreams and aspirations, when we find a person that we become friends with and subsequently more, we connect on a certain level, and then we feel that we cannot live our lives again without that person after that. Our ability to learn is directly effected by our emotions, since we shall learn and progress when we really want to. The reason i feel that we hold onto people and things that bring about some change in our lives is that they appeal to our emotional side of living the perfect life, and hence we feel that henceforth without those special things or people, we shall never have the same quality of life. I understand that as human we cannot simply let go, because that is what we define as someone that cares, but i also think that because we care, we should have the ability to let go of everything. A bit cryptic perhaps, but a bit more significant for me as i feel that when we can control our emotions to allow us to learn that a perfect life isn't one that really obtained, but rather a realistic life is what we get, then we would actually be closer to live a life which is more fulfilling. It maybe quite subjective, but i know that it makes a whole lot of sense, as people change, and people are different. We may not know what someone is truly about, or we may when its a bit too late. To close, id just like to share "In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself."Deepak Chopra

Monday, 8 April 2013

The effect of consistency

There seems to always come a time when we are drawn into our lives and have a monotonous lifestyle doing things the same way everyday. Sometimes, this may seem as a good thing as doing good continuously adds up and shows good progress, though how do we know that what we are doing is actually improving our lives or doing the opposite? The reason i have this on my mind is that a few weeks ago, i decided that what i was doing wasn't enough, and to be more productive and have a better quality of life, i will need to work harder for longer now. During this beginning phase i ask myself a whole lot of questions which helps me understand if i am doing too much and heading for a burnout, or am i actually doing what i was supposed to be doing in the first place. The idea of making the most of ones time comes up a lot in everyone's life when they take the time to reflect and put things into perspective. I get amazed quite often at what kind of goals i set myself when after a while i try to take the route where i do much more than i think i can handle and it actually goes along well without any problems. Let me give you an example. Ive been trying to go to gym from the time i was in school to keep fit and lead a healthy lifestyle, and part of going to gym, is the consistency as well as intensity. Generally we should go to gym 3-4 time a week to lead a fruitful healthy lifestyle with moderate intensity. Ive been doing this generally on and off and see minimal results, and a couple months ago i decided to up the ante and try and go to gym on average 5 times a week, and not only that but with a high intensity. The difference is that when working consistently you will find a more fruitful outcome than working hard for a short while. Our only draw back would be our minds since we have a limited amount of concentration to give. so, to me, i feel that if i can increase my concentration, i can earn a better quality of life getting the most i can get done!

Thursday, 10 January 2013

a determined mind

The feeling of waking up in the morning, realizing the state you are in and making a promise to yourself to change everything that you do to change and get to a happier place in life. I'm sure that many of us can agree to this kind of scenario since we all have goals in life although at times it may seem to be in the furthest recesses of our minds just kept away so we don't realize what we are doing or what we are allowing ourselves to be put through. The realization that we have other choices and the determination of following through with those decisions are what make us determined. This can be seen mainly with people who are over weight and wake up one day realizing that they are indeed much fatter and unhealthy than they need to be, and thus make up their minds to change. This change in the way people treat themselves are triggered by a motivation to attain a better quality of life. Not everyone can find this determination in their lives , but from the few success stories that we do fine, we can see that it is possible to change. For me, this shows that although as humans we get beaten down, trod on in terms of literal and superficial issues, even issues of the mind and our beliefs, we can find a motivation to make ourselves determined to find the truth or to find a better way to live in essence. For a person to appreciate the value of living a "normal" life, they have to be subjected to living a life off those more unfortunate. in many ways, a hungry person find more satisfaction from a cup of water than a spoilt rich person who only drinks designer beverages. However, we don't have to put ourselves through every agony to acquire the humbleness and the appreciating of what we have and where we are. I feel that although i may not have lived in the slums or fought against an army, i still appreciate what it would be like and take choices in my life to be better than that and not go down the same path. To know the limits of your mind, you do need to push it however, but you will be surprised for how much you can do with it when you really try.

Sunday, 30 December 2012

time for reflection

The last day of this year and I'm here at work in my office not being as productive as i should be, looking for every excuse as not to do so as well, i remembered my blog which i have been away from for way too long. Perhaps no new thoughts that came to mind, or really nothing to share, but i guess there are times when one finds themselves sitting and thinking about things. Just sitting here, i am wondering about the year that has passed and what progress i made in my life. I have spoken previously about making the most of our time, yet i feel that that has been easier said than done. I feel that although sometimes we feel that we do not progress in life and find ourselves in the same place we were when we left, there are things about a person that changes and things a person realizes and feels differently about. Looking back specifically on this year 2012, so much has happen and so many things change. We see things differently as we did last year this time, though sometimes we feel stuck and in the same place. I know that personally i felt as if the year just flew by, though i also know that i have done quite a bit in this time as well. What this leads me onto thinking about is that although we spend the time and do the things, we do to really appreciate the passage of time. I could have a full weekend from Friday evening all the way to Sunday afternoon, and still get up on Monday morning and complain to everyone at work that the weekend was too short! A person has the capacity to deal with a specific amount of things at any point in their life. There are some people who like to do so much more and are always looking for different things to occupy themselves with. I feel i am one of these kind of people and hence i also feel like there are so many things that are interesting and that i do not do. Listening to a CD on the Life of Prophet Mohammed (SAW), i came upon a section where they mention that as Muslims we should not busy ourselves in things which have no value to add. The type of of activities that he proposed from that time are activities such as swimming (as they were Arabs from the desert, they didn't know how to swim, so learning how to swim would be advantageous to them), marksmanship and even horse riding. To me, these kind of activities are only some of the thing we can do in the times we live in today to make our selves better people, and although i know i wouldn't be able to do everything, i will endeavor to learn a few and do my best to be good at it. A happy new year to everyone, and may 2013 bring plenty happiness and joy to your life!

Tuesday, 14 August 2012

why live to die

Ever wish you werer in a place where time seemed to not change anything around you, where you could do what you felt like till your heart's content. An everness for your dreams and desires. When you find yourself doing just the right thing at the time without anyone to disturb or distract you.

The world as i see it now is full of distractions and things that change. The places we stay, the things we do, the way we choose to live are always changing to circumstance and desire. As i did mention in my previous posts about the way we always have desires which change when we get closer to our goals, in the same way we cannot sit around doing the same thing day in and day out! Sometimes we feel that we are doing the best thing and we wouldn't want to change it for anything in the world, but there does come a time when this too has to stop, for we are all slaves to the same time.

I haven't really written a post for a while, since i haven't found the combination of motivation and drive as i did when i start, and this can be seen as a classical example. There are always thoughts that i find myself pondering about, though most seem to have been covered in my previous posts and the newer ones never seem to have an adequate amount of substance to write it out.

Most people live their lives from a conservative perspective to be safe and secure, while there are some who are more out there and have a greater chance of being distinguished and recognized for the way they live their lives. We all can achieve different things, though we choose not to as we find the things we understand and know to be satisfying. Can this really be enough reason to justify our lives? doing the same thing in and out, knowing in a ball park where we are going to be in 10, 20 and 30 years time. What kind of retirement we want to have and other stuff as such.

If we lived in a place where we didnt have to concern ourselves about getting old and planning for stuff that may not happen, would we live happier lives which are more significant and gratifying? Perhaps it can be done by changing the way we view ourselves. We make the priorities and goals for ourselves. A change of mind would certainly make us better at living in a time where time is money, and our timing with the world would determine where we are headed.

Why live to die, when we can change the way we look at living and live to make a difference.


Wednesday, 18 July 2012

fears that make us who we are

One of the most primal instincts we have is the feeling of fear. We all feel it and understand that there are things in this world which we fear. Some things we fear more than others depending on its possible effect on us.

Personally i fear time as one of the things that will catch up and take its toll. We all age as it is our nature to, and yet i feel that i may not be able to do everything i wanted or accomplish as much as i wanted to. Perhaps i procrastinate too much, perhaps i aim too high, but the end result cannot be avoided.

Coming into contact with things around us, we learn to fear things such as falling and hot surfaces, but this we learn usually after experiencing it first hand. We also learn of other fears of things that don't exist, but are rather made up by our imaginations such as monsters under the bed of in all the dark places. We do however learn to overcome some of our fears as well.

The more we understand about things around us, the more we loose our fear of things which we know cannot harm or hurt us in anyway, and we develop fears which are more realistic such as things which cause grievous harm physically and emotionally. From being in an accident to loosing the love of our life's, we get hurt and fear the same situation happening again. People sometimes don't recover from these for their entire lives and others learn to deal with it and get over it.

Fear makes us mortal and helps us understand our boundaries to a level. We do however get quite caught up when we tend to be extra cautious and as a result we loose site of taking any risks that may be for the better. We become conservative and never do anything out of the box. Our fears can make us into boring and strange people.

Taking a step back and looking at our fears and our lives on the whole, we may see that death is inevitable to everyone. In the same way, do we fear death or do we rather fear the amount of pain it may take to kill us?
As we know the certanities, we cannot stop them and hence we cannot postpone when is meant to happen. We shouldn't take risks that are not worth it, but on the same breath, we shouldn't bury ourselves in a hole fearing everything that may go wrong.

Myself, i feel i have made many mistakes in my life and i don't want to go through them again, but without certain things that happen to us which are out of our control, how would we ever develop our characters to be with those who have fought wars and became renowned for their strengths.

"fear cuts deeper than swords" - Arya Stark, A Song of Ice and Fire,George R.R. Martin


Tuesday, 10 July 2012

what we really need to survive?

A break to discover, find out more about oneself. To learn about new things we didn't know previously. To discover the truth about how we feel and what we really think about stuff.

I haven't written a post for a little while now as I took a long time over due break, even though it was just a week! The change of scenery is always welcome for the light it brings to your eyes to see things from other perspectives. We look for motivation to do things we don't really feel like doing, like the reason a lot of people work. Like, really , who enjoys getting up on a cold Monday morning to go to an office and work. The reason behind that is really as we understand it to be that we need to earn a living.

Earning a living can be defined as being able to earn money to be able to at-least live with the most basic needs such as food, clothes, shelter. We can extend these needs in orders of priority such as lighting, privacy, etc. In the day and age that we exist and to be able to live in a medium standard of living, we would have to have so many things above our basic needs. We would need fast transport, easy nutritious meals, clean clothes and that's just a few.

Looking back, we can still remember how we were content in our younger days without having any money at all, but going out into the world and still having fun and productive day. We cannot however say the same looking forward. The things we would need to live a normal life in the days of current and looking forward require so much more.

We can however accept that most of what we do is better advanced that what we may have been used to in the past, but sometimes we seem to get lost on a tangent trying to keep up with the world and what really makes a positive difference in our lives. We cannot walk barefoot anymore without our feet getting sore since the shoes we use always are always comfortable and soft. We cannot stand the cold or heat as we are so used to climate controlled environments.

We adapt to our surroundings as it is in our nature, but i feel that we shouldn't make ourselves too complaisant as to expect everything to be perfect all the time. We are made to be able to withstand and endure certain things that we are exposed too, but how would we ever be able to deal when we have to if we don't let ourselves be exposed to some kind of hardships at-least?

To be a strong person, i think we need to look for the rocky road rather than the easier one sometimes.