fears that make us who we are

One of the most primal instincts we have is the feeling of fear. We all feel it and understand that there are things in this world which we fear. Some things we fear more than others depending on its possible effect on us.

Personally i fear time as one of the things that will catch up and take its toll. We all age as it is our nature to, and yet i feel that i may not be able to do everything i wanted or accomplish as much as i wanted to. Perhaps i procrastinate too much, perhaps i aim too high, but the end result cannot be avoided.

Coming into contact with things around us, we learn to fear things such as falling and hot surfaces, but this we learn usually after experiencing it first hand. We also learn of other fears of things that don't exist, but are rather made up by our imaginations such as monsters under the bed of in all the dark places. We do however learn to overcome some of our fears as well.

The more we understand about things around us, the more we loose our fear of things which we know cannot harm or hurt us in anyway, and we develop fears which are more realistic such as things which cause grievous harm physically and emotionally. From being in an accident to loosing the love of our life's, we get hurt and fear the same situation happening again. People sometimes don't recover from these for their entire lives and others learn to deal with it and get over it.

Fear makes us mortal and helps us understand our boundaries to a level. We do however get quite caught up when we tend to be extra cautious and as a result we loose site of taking any risks that may be for the better. We become conservative and never do anything out of the box. Our fears can make us into boring and strange people.

Taking a step back and looking at our fears and our lives on the whole, we may see that death is inevitable to everyone. In the same way, do we fear death or do we rather fear the amount of pain it may take to kill us?
As we know the certanities, we cannot stop them and hence we cannot postpone when is meant to happen. We shouldn't take risks that are not worth it, but on the same breath, we shouldn't bury ourselves in a hole fearing everything that may go wrong.

Myself, i feel i have made many mistakes in my life and i don't want to go through them again, but without certain things that happen to us which are out of our control, how would we ever develop our characters to be with those who have fought wars and became renowned for their strengths.

"fear cuts deeper than swords" - Arya Stark, A Song of Ice and Fire,George R.R. Martin

what we really need to survive?

A break to discover, find out more about oneself. To learn about new things we didn't know previously. To discover the truth about how we feel and what we really think about stuff.

I haven't written a post for a little while now as I took a long time over due break, even though it was just a week! The change of scenery is always welcome for the light it brings to your eyes to see things from other perspectives. We look for motivation to do things we don't really feel like doing, like the reason a lot of people work. Like, really , who enjoys getting up on a cold Monday morning to go to an office and work. The reason behind that is really as we understand it to be that we need to earn a living.

Earning a living can be defined as being able to earn money to be able to at-least live with the most basic needs such as food, clothes, shelter. We can extend these needs in orders of priority such as lighting, privacy, etc. In the day and age that we exist and to be able to live in a medium standard of living, we would have to have so many things above our basic needs. We would need fast transport, easy nutritious meals, clean clothes and that's just a few.

Looking back, we can still remember how we were content in our younger days without having any money at all, but going out into the world and still having fun and productive day. We cannot however say the same looking forward. The things we would need to live a normal life in the days of current and looking forward require so much more.

We can however accept that most of what we do is better advanced that what we may have been used to in the past, but sometimes we seem to get lost on a tangent trying to keep up with the world and what really makes a positive difference in our lives. We cannot walk barefoot anymore without our feet getting sore since the shoes we use always are always comfortable and soft. We cannot stand the cold or heat as we are so used to climate controlled environments.

We adapt to our surroundings as it is in our nature, but i feel that we shouldn't make ourselves too complaisant as to expect everything to be perfect all the time. We are made to be able to withstand and endure certain things that we are exposed too, but how would we ever be able to deal when we have to if we don't let ourselves be exposed to some kind of hardships at-least?

To be a strong person, i think we need to look for the rocky road rather than the easier one sometimes.