to lead is to follow

A person who takes charge, talks with authority, makes decisions and does what they feel is right for the whole. This person we can refer to as a leader. Someone who people look up to for advice, for guidance, for the ways to do things and make decisions on our behalf. The decisions we are too scared or have no confidence to take for ourselves.

Being a leader is not necessarily a bad thing as i feel that such things come naturally to some people and they can be made out. In a perfect system, we would have leaders who are meant to be there and they would lead us adequately, but the reality isn't so.

We find ourselves in times where there are monarchs, rebels and armies taking over governments, countries and holding people hostage to get their ways. There are many ways in which people are leaders and at the same time we find there as much people who want to be leader since this is a position of power. Power can be both constructive and destructive depending on who wields it, and since the power of our current generations are defined by the amount of money, resources, armies and people a country has, the person who has control over the most of these has the most power. Currently we know one of these super powers are clearly the USA, since they have the biggest economy, the biggest armies & capabilities and they have a multitude of people. The risk of holding this much of power is abuse and making the wrong choices. We all make mistakes and yet with so much power, a small mistake can go the wrong way.

We can also recognize a leader in our houses as the person who is the 'bread winner' and such, has the power to control what happens in the household. There also exist more noble households who base their leader as the elders in the house. The point of a leader should be the one that can successfully lead us down the right path in a way we can understand and grow as people, keep up with the times yet not sit in a backward community afraid of the dark since in the old days a bear would look somewhat like a ghost and would kill people.

We also have religious leaders who attempt to guide us adequately down the divine part, but in a lot of ways, we cannot fully understand these things unless we aspire to be someone in their stead as well. We need leaders who know of our lives, our circumstances and can direct us with meaning. When we don't fully understand something, we do feel as if we are being manipulated.

Not everyone is born a natural leader, but we can all take control and lead our lives. We also have people to look up to and follow, but at the same time learn, since we all need to lead at sometime.

to be a Legend

The thought of being remembered even when you are not around, the hope of being around and making a difference well after you have passed. This is what a legacy should be.

We all have dreams and hope to do amazing things during our lifetimes. We dream of making this world a better place for us to live in and perhaps sometimes even for everyone around us. We do things and start projects that wouldn't get done within our lifetimes only since we believe that it would add to the value of life.

We do what we feel is the best thing for the people around us and we also believe that this is the best there is, so we hope to carry this through through generations via the actions we take and the things we set in motion.

Such things are noble and Honorable like the building of governments for war ridden countries in Africa, some aren't like the holocaust created in Germany by Hitler. Hitler indeed had in his mind that he was in fact doing the right thing and that's why he did all he could to carry it out. In the same way we all feel that what we do is sometimes the best thing for everyone and we aspire to carry out this to everyone around us and even to people who are still to come.

How do we know whether our intentions are on the right side or are going to really be better for the greater good? We know that sometimes things that seems harsh may be good such as ending a life of a suffering animal. At the same time, how do we know when that line is not to be crossed? Do we end the life of a person who is suffering only because they cannot lead a normal life after this?

The notion of leaving behind a legacy by a person is a noble idea and shows that there is some need to be remembered for carrying out something meaningful and for the betterment of everyone on the whole. Though there are so many people who are born and die at every moment, not everyone can be remembered as they desire and not everyone can make a difference.

We who have the opportunities need to make the best of it and do what we can. We shall leave behind meaningful ways for living, but to do this we need to make a difference. Lets become legends of our times, do something to help, even if its a small part of a greater project that would only be realized years after your passing.

lifes roller coaster

"When days are dark, friends are few" - something i read on the back of a taxi, and i remember it because i can relate it to so many people I've spoke to, know and myself has experienced. We find friends, or rather get found by people with motives not known to us but we see the good side of people. People are considerate and give in returning the favor, though what we lack is the foresight to see some deceptive people for who they really are.

We live in a place where we learn many hard realities. Some of us at a very early age and some of us a bit later, some of us not at all. We learn best from experience even though we might get advice on it prior, example, when we get told not to touch the stove or iron since it is hot, we will wait for the first opportunity to touch it and only after the excruciating, soul jerking pain do we learn not to touch things that are hot since they burn and it feels like death itself.

We do however learn of peoples true intentions though and know the type of people that exist. We can appreciate that we all have the same capabilities and we may be doing it in some other way we do not realize since we all will do things to benefit us or what we feel should be done.

Life is not a constant place where we live all happy or all sad all the time. We go through times of hardship, times of pain, times of happiness, times of exhilaration and many more! We cannot say exactly when we would experience each, though we do know the types of feelings to expect. The feelings of happiness, love, excitement are the types of feelings which we enjoy and look forward to, yet there is a time where "all good things come to an end"

People get sad when they have to give up some of these type of things, that's why we cry when people we care about have to leave and we feel sad when our holidays are over. The same reasons we get happy on Fridays, and are kind of depressed on Mondays.

Life has many ups and downs, though we looks forward to the happier times. If we come across times of distress, we need to realize that there is also times of happiness. We need not get caught up in the moment and i feel that our lives although isn't always awesome, we can make the best of our times that are.

the difference

"Men are from mars, Ladies are from Venus"
This is a heading many would relate to when knowing that men and ladies are different. How different is what i'm going to try to make some sense to get an appreciation for.

I feel that men and women both are strong, but certainly in different ways. Men exist (generally) with deeper voices, bodies made for higher intensities, and generally tough work.

Ladies are made gentler, with a calming nature and features which are meant to attract the male species.

In the world as we know it, we know that we strive for humanity and that means we want all humans to be equal, be it that they are men, women, multiracial, come from different heritages. All humans have the capacity and capability of developing into the next president or tyrant, but what is the difference?

Does it take the most intelligent person in the world to make our lives easier, or is it really the person who works the hardest on it? The thing that makes us unique is the way we carry ourselves out and the way we do things. This is influenced by how we perceive things and the way we react to them.

Many of us have dreams to make a difference to this world that we live in since we find that there are things about it that we don't like or cannot stand to like and i find this true as especially with things such as murder, rape and numerous other such things. We want to stop the violence, stop the pain, hurt and anguish. We have good hearts and want to stop all the things we know as bad things, but just how prepared are we?

Do we know the consequences of our actions before we carry them out? will the future generations look back at us and laugh at the naive thing we do in the same way we look on our past? we know that war and revenge are not the right ends of any stick, but these are the things that were understood to out an end to the suffering and pain of others.

We who want to make a difference, need not only look for peace, but we need to know of the effects of our actions as well. We stop people from killing off people by fighting wars and stopping them. They then start making weapons of mass destruction to take revenge of all the people that was killed during the wars. Finally by reducing the resources and capacity of others to make weapons, they cannot forcefully harm people. We then live our life's by eating too much and loose our instincts to live, and we end our lives by dying of heart attacks, strokes and many other medical reason as a result of our lifestyles.

We can all make a difference, and this can be done by knowing the difference from our past mistake and what we can do now to change where we are headed.

walk the walk

Clear thoughts and clear words. Expressions that show just the right emotions and not a hint of fear or reprieve. This is what i think of when i try to picture a confident person. Confidence is a quality that not every person has or comes to naturally, though it is something that we can achieve.

To be confident, we can further describe it as knowing exactly what we are doing and what we want to do and how to execute it successfully. We would have no doubts in our ability and at the same time no fear of failing in what we do. Since we cannot just do anything perfectly from the first time we do it, we require practice and mastering the skill required, like how you would have confidence in speaking a certain new language only after you have learnt it properly. In the same way we cannot always be confident in what we do for the first time.

Sometimes we will come across things we do that even though we practice it and do the best we can to master it, we still cannot find the confidence in ourselves for it such as if we had to learn archery and we master it, but when put in a situation such as shooting a target of a living person, we loose confidence in our abilities, which brings me to another concept which is important to having confidence, and that is bravery.

As the saying goes: "you can do the talk, but can you walk the walk?", is a nice way of noticing the difference. In our minds, we can be confident of what we do and be prepared, so we can talk the talk, but to walk the walk we need to find the bravery within ourselves.

Brave people are people who can be classified with people who take risks even when the odds are against them. Brave people are not always the people that come out on top, but we know certainly that brave people can make a difference, in a good and bad way as well. Not only are heroes brave, but in the same way, so are the bad guys. The difference lies only with what each want to accomplish.

There are times when we feign confidence and put on a mask just to hide our true intentions and feelings such as sometimes when people get stage fright, they train themselves to keep the audience from knowing by the figurative mask they use. A brave person uses this to get over the lack of confidence for this type of purpose.

In the end we find reasons in our life for being confident and for acting confident. Being brave and acting brave. The ways we show ourselves out in this world is the way the world would react to us. We have an influence over this. This is the same reason we convince ourselves to be brave during times of hardship and confident when making important decisions or carrying out important tasks. Be brave and have confidence in what you do.

the appreciation of things

Anxious, nervous and excited all at the same time. The feeling of showing of something meaningful and close to your heart. The anticipation of sharing what you love and adore. All the details usually overseen to the unsuspecting eye, all the time and dedication to get it just right. Who else would ever understand it just the same?

We all know just how we feel about the things we dedicate our time towards and the type of satisfaction we get from doing it and it doesn't stop there since we know and appreciate the details of doing it just as perfectly as we can!

Artists appreciate the critique of other artists better than the layman on the street since they can appreciate the intricacies and effort put into it, as well as the symbolization of the techniques used, also the meanings of all these things put together to create the final product. In the same way musicians appreciate the critique of other musicians etc.

This also does apply to us in every way, since we are always looking at things from our perspective first, then from the perspective of the people and community around us. We all have a certain level of appreciation for things we can understand and use. we all appreciate just how we like our toast buttered, or for some of us who have tea, we appreciate the difference in adding just boiling water or rather having the tea brewed.

What i feel we lack is an appreciation for things that are different and seem foreign. We cannot totally appreciate everything as we don't totally understand it, but we do have the capacity to understand that there is an appreciation to it, such as the person that has a better understanding of it will do.

Sometimes our opinions are based on what information we get generally from around us, such as people studying all the time are boring and do not make good friends, yet throughout our lives we use stuff that these people have thought of, invent and implement so that we can live comfortable lives. We do not appreciate the detail and considerations of others fully in all aspects as we should.

Even though we cannot appreciate everything, we can at least do our best to understand there is an appreciation. This would make us less selfish and open to ideas, thoughts and differences we are capable of.

strength to endure

We find ourselves in hard places making difficult decisions. Sometimes we understand fully the effects of our decisions and sometimes we just don't. We live life with an opinion as to how everything around us is, and use our own lives as yardsticks as to determine just how difficult or easy things are.

Children in Africa and around the world in places with harsh lifestyles, grow up knowing life as most of us would know as being terrible, yet there are some of them that do live on and grow up after this. Imagine a life where you are taken away from your parents before you can comprehend what they look like and what they were like, then you get placed in a camp where you are given food enough only to sustain your life and put through a rigorous regime of training and hardship. What state of mind would you find these types of people? For certain i know that i think its a totally sad and tough circumstance to live in. How do they manage?

I know that we find ourselves in life with tough situations that feel as if we are on the verge of falling apart. We also give up before we get into anything because only to avoid the anguish of breaking down or loosing hope. This i feel is a bit sad as we should not be living life in fear of things that might happen if we do something out of our safety zone.

As in a previous post, http://thinkrandomness.blogspot.com/2012/05/get-up-dont-give-up.html, i speak about a person not having more than they can handle. How would we even know what we are capable of if we do not go out and explore? Yes, we will get hurt, yes we will find the going tough, and yes we will hate a lot of it, though what we do get is actually living life and experiencing things we never would have otherwise. We add meaning to our lives.

The more aware we are of our lives and the type of lives our fellow human beings are exposed of, the more we have an idea of what the capabilities of us as humans are.
We know that we have the capability of visiting the moon, going to the deepest depths of the ocean and climbing the highest of mountains, but we also need to put into perspective that we can endure harshness and difficult times just as well.

For all the things we aspire to do, we have people who aspire to be as we are. Most of us wouldn't find ourselves at the extremes, yet we all want to strive to live the best life possible. We cannot choose where we are born or what language we speak, yet we all have things in life that might seem very difficult.

"Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one" - Bruce Lee

Lets be strong in character, deep in understanding and open to possibilities. Life is an unknown, we need to take our opportunities and savor every moment as we savor the things we enjoy the most.

clarity in calmness

A night when there exists two moons, a night where there exist two skies. All the happenings can be dissected and separated into the specific description of a scent, the sharpness of the objects around you, the feint noises of far away rustles. This picture of calmness can be classified as such by the lack of interruption, the smoothness and detail of the descriptions and the consistency of the feelings.

A calm person's presence can be felt and sensed by the way they act, walk, look and their demeanor. These type of people can be also found when people can clearly foresee the different outcomes of a situation, and hence have control over their reactions.

In life, working class people are used to working in stressful environments, having deadlines, meetings and changing plans. People get their jobs with a mandate to perform. This performance which they keep up to do their work or even do more than their work can be stressful. Stress is a good thing in a situation which requires results, as the stress makes you mind and body more reactive to working.

I believe however that this sharpness of the mind and body can also be achieved when a person is calm. As i said above, when a person is calm, they tend to take notice of more detail around them and process this information with better accuracy since they are working to the capabilities of their bodies. It is understood that not everyone has the same capabilities, yet, we can all be calm. We find that there are people who seem to work better under pressure and this may be true, however this make for an excuse for the person to carry out their work at the very last minute since that's when the pressure would be.

When i have a lot of things on my mind happening at the same time, i feel it difficult to focus on a single thing and carry it out properly as i always start thinking about the other stuff. This is when i feel like i cannot do enough and handle everything at once time. I used to do art in school, and found that i could be at it for many hours concentrating, and at the same time it brought my thoughts in line. That is only a single way of many we can use to find some type of calmness.

As a calm person, i feel we can gain control of situation and work more efficiently. A calm person listens, calculates before they act. We should strive for this.

innocence, that we lose and that we gain

With wide open eyes full of wonder, an open mind looking for answers, not a hint of suspicion, not a strain of disbelief: these are the images i see when i talk of innocence. An example which can be perceived by almost everyone, is that of a child no more than the age when they just start listening and talking their mind and learn to work things out.

A child is not taught that lies exist by explanations given from parents, but rather, they learn, as the rest of us, of the lies and deceptions through experience. We can relate to this by an easy example, where when we try to get a required reaction from a child, such as to get a child to behave, some of us would offer them ice cream since that would make them listen to us, but the  issue of rewarding them with ice cream is not always upheld. It works the first few times, until the child can piece together that its just an excuse. We can notice this when the same child start asking us our own questions such as: "will you get me ice cream if i behave?" and many other similar cases as well.

We know of innocence as being one where there is no alternative agendas and there is nothing hidden. We lose our innocence when we learn about how harsh our lives can really are and we understand the actual workings of peoples minds and the possibilities of our real intents.

Since we as humans value our lives and we have an amount of self preservation as our priorities, we will look out for ourselves before others. When we look out for ourselves, we also find it in our thought processes that we may need to keep things from other people which sometimes involves a level of lies or deception. This is when we can confirm that the innocence we once had, is lost.

With innocence, goes along a feeling of being naive, since the reason we are innocent, is because we do not know any better. When we do know, we become more thoughtful and think about things before we speak them. People are innocent in different things as they grow up, such as girls are innocent to intimate relationships until they start dating and then they find their way. People are innocent of bargaining until they start bargaining on their own, and many other examples.

The innocent part in all our lives are defined by the people around us. We could not choose our influences and the way we learnt to make decisions, but these things help define ourselves, character and the finally the thought process we use.

We need to be mindful of the innocents around us and treat this as an opportunity to shape their minds to allow them a better understanding than us. We also need to teach the people around us who are innocent about certain things and help them understand better.

and in the end, it doesnt even matter

Among the best feelings in the world, the ones i can describe are the feeling of relief, joy, love, freedom and many others. Some specific things that i can think of at this moment is the steaming feeling after a hot shower just before you go to bed (usually during winter this feeling is especially awesome), the feeling of realization of someone that really cares about you and more.

The reason I'm highlighting these types of feeling leads me onto my question which is what in life do we look to accomplish? Fair enough we all want to lead happy peaceful lives, filled with love happiness and joy, but this is not a reality and certainly not a way a single person i know lives their lives. Three are millions of people around the world who live each day not knowing what they are going to eat, or are they going to survive another day.

As people, we look to accomplish things to lead a decent live at least. Part of accomplishing these things involves what we do. We all (most of us) go to school to study and learn, after which we further our studies in fields we feel we are interested in and at the same time will be meaningful to us. Meaningful in a sense as that there are jobs for our field so we can earn a living, and when we have the capacity to study something in a more specialized field such as medicine or engineering, we work towards that goals to increase our earning capacity. Most of us choose paths to get the most out of what we do. We study to get a qualification and then we start working in a job and look to progress in that job and with these moves, we become more valuable in terms of resource and in the end we look to earn as much as we can.

If we take a look at some of the people who are fortunate enough to have enough money as not to worry about such things most of the people in our world have to deal with, we will see that they all are not working hard studying and pursuing a career after which they can retire peacefully. They do what they want, since the monetary part is covered.

Even though we don't have that kind of money, our perspective in life is important as well. I know that we can get caught up in life with our careers and working life, that we forget the reason we work and earn money. We forget our dreams and what means the most to us. We get into the rat race of a boring life, doing the same things day in and day out. We sign up to work and commit ourselves to working hours yet how many times you feel that you want to go to work everyday? We believe that this is how our lives need to be and the worst part is we forget.

I do feel that we can still enjoy what makes us feel happy and what we live for even with progressing in our careers. Life is very fragile, we can be here one moment and gone the next. We cannot progress after we die, so why cant we enjoy life all the way through and not just put all our eggs in a basket on having a comfortable retirement?

"The best things in life are free"

Look to all the things that are really meaningful in life and remain happy even though things may not want you to be.

rage, a story for calm

The tips of my fingers start to tingle, words get stuck in my throat, i get goosebumps in anticipation, suddenly i feel braver and everything else seems totally under my control. The fear is gone, and i feel my body taking over from my mind. At that very point, it all just stops. I can breath again, can see clearly and just stop and think clearly again, no, no mistakes this time.

We define humans as being a species of animal also. We say that we also have likeness to instincts which can be found in our genetic make-up. We have numerous glands which produce hormones in our bodies to exhibit different modes such as the release of adrenalin when our body goes into flight mode (requires increased strength, concentration, breathing etc). These reactions occur mostly on a subconscious level, and we do act on this. We get into physical fights, arguments and we do things which we usually regret later.

These things which we regret range from mild to insane. Mild would be using harsh words on a person which after a while when you think back, you regret saying certain words that you wouldn't have. Some people refer this as being the 'heat of the moment'. Clearly from experience we know that this is a point where we loose control to an extent on our faculties and do things we are not always fully aware of until it is done. An insane example would be the point where we perhaps kill a person or multiple people.

I feel that in every case that we face, we always have a choice, or choices to make. We make these choices weighing our options like on a balance scale and give preference to the one that we feel tips that scale. The difference when we do things before we think and when we choose to think first properly before we do something is this point. When we are angry and we have raging feelings building inside yourself, we tend to do what makes us feel better at the time instead of thinking logically and choosing the right path.

Sometimes we may feel that we don't have control over ourselves at this point, but i rather think that we don't want to rather. I have been in this kind of situation a few times and i know the intoxicating feeling of giving in to letting go and coming out on top, but i soon also realized that we can have control over ourselves and the way is to think what it would be like in such scenarios before we get into them.

I also sometimes feel that i lack the ability to react to things enough because i choose to think about it first, and more often than not, i choose to let things slide as the option to live life the way i want it out weighs most of my other choices.

Perhaps you may find yourself loosing control because it feels good, or you are always on the edge.I think that finding something you can use to tip the scales that make you see that there is something worth more than fighting.

"My secret is... i am always angry"  - everything has a solution, even if you may not be able to find it doesn't mean it does not exist!

unassumed strength

What does it mean to have strength?

We know that usually when we are talking about a person who has strength, we picture a guy with defined muscles who could perhaps carry a horse. This is the physical strength that we think of when referring to strength. We also know of emotional strength, like when a person has the unfortunate opportunity to go through many hardships such as loosing everything around them and they have to get up and continue with life. With this high levels of emotional distress, people learn to endure more and more of the sad things that we can expect in life and hence, they become emotionally strong.

In science, the strength of something can be defined by the amount of energy the it can absorb before it fails. This we can logically tie with how we feel and a similar definition for our strength.

Initially, i used to think that the harder something was, the stronger it seemed, though i did find out later that this perception was indeed false, since harder things can absorb lots of energy initially, they have a limit at which they suddenly fail. Example, glass is a hard substance, and relatively strong, though once it cannot absorb anymore energy, it shatters.

We can use this as an analogy when relating it to people as well. We sometimes feel that people who are stern and hard as we say, might seem as they have no feelings and are almost emotionally dormant, but there may also be a realization that they really only have the capacity of being mean to an amount after which they break down and cannot do it anymore. They keep their emotions closed off and almost immune to any hurt.

On the other hand, people who are trustful and soft at heart, show their emotions often and at the same time their good nature is taken advantage of, and in the end, they always get hurt. Though these type of people get hurt, they do not totally shatter. They get up and move on.

I feel that true strength lies with those who are soft at heart and are the most caring. These are the qualities we should look for in ourselves.

Don't be mean, be sweet, adorable and caring.

charging for interest

A glimpse, something know, something not. perhaps enough, maybe not at all. Which of these would we say are the truest of the lot?

Capturing the interest of a person or an audience means to make a person curious. A curious person is interested in things they do not know. We all are looking for answers even though we might not seem as much, but that is certainly how we are made.

A bright light in the surrounding darkness forms a beacon, a river falling over a ledge makes the sounds of peace and similarly people who have something to share create intrigue in the people around them.

People of a community, grow together and generally have a lot of the same mannerisms. They speak with the same dialect, have similar beliefs and even react similarly to things around them, since what the young learn if primarily from their parents, then the schools (run by the community). In the same way, a person develops their personality and also an understanding of logic. They figure out what kind of things make them happy, and at the same time they discover their capabilities and limitations.

A young person will look up to a person whom they admire, since that person would have the qualities or lives in the way that young person aspires to. These are our role models. I know that not all people who are role models are perfect or any good for that matter, such as drug using musicians or actors, but these ideas are exposed and built into our societies.

We relate wealth and being famous to these people, but at the same time we say they do all these bad things. At another moment, we all strive to be wealthy as well, so logically younger people make the link, and start believing that doing the same as these 'role models' they will end up wealthy. There are many other examples such as this one, but you get what i mean.

How does a person gets interested in somebody, but at the same time there may exist a person who isn't interested in that person at all? As i mentioned above, i think that people are interested in other people according to what they admire in terms of capabilities, attributes and personality. Like the saying goes "opposites attract" might just be true, since what a person might be lacking in, is what interests them in the next person.

In the end, i feel that to acquire and keep ones interest is not only the about what the person looks like, but the way these each complete each other.

reasoning with reason

The word reason can be thought about as a way we as humans understand how things happen. Example, the reason the ball fell was that it was released from above and the action of gravity brought it towards the earth. All around us, in everything we do and everything we experience, we try to understand it by relating it to how or why it happen or occurred.

As we learn while we grow and get wiser, we find reasons for everything that happens around us. More in science where we study something to the depths of its being to find out the nature of it. With these scientifically logical ways of reasoning, we can predetermine the nature of certain things (such as water turning to ice when you remove the energy from it).

Standing where we are in this day and age, we can see that science is generally undisputed when it comes to the understanding of things since it makes sense to us. We also know, that not everything in this world, or in our existence is proven by science yet. These are the mysteries that we know. There can also be a debate that as time goes, we will get more technologically advanced and we shall find the reasons for more and more stuff around us, yet there do exist things in life that we do not and shall not come to understand.

Believing in Divinity, these people understand that there are things which occur that we may not totally have a scientifically proven reason for. We believe in our Gods, and angels and other things that may not be comprehended fully by our minds, but that does not mean since we cannot comprehend it, it does not exist.

The scientific reasoning for how we live and our lives are what makes sense to us and how we give understanding to things. We also give reasons to things which we cannot fully understand, perhaps a miraculous recovery to someone who was terminally ill, or even how people manage to carry out inhumane feats. Atheists who believe in proof and facts also don't see the reality that even with science we cannot prove everything yet, but they believe that they will be able too. Who is sure of that? Is that not the same as believing in something we may believe exists?

Anyway, the expression "everything that happens, happens for a reason" is true for us, as long as we do understand that there does exist things that we cannot fully comprehend that may influence how something happens. We know this well enough as we may refer to it as being lucky, or unlucky!

get up, dont give up

A million thoughts, you ears feeling warmer than they should, you cannot concentrate at the task at hand, always looking for a way to figure out whats the solution, then all of a sudden, like a massive wave, it just hits you and you start lose all concentration, directive or drive to complete whatever it was you were doing. You decide that's it, and you give up!

When things are beyond our control and we cannot have enough of an influence on something, we get scared and fear the worst, which after we realize what the worst may be, we cave in and give up. We find that there are people who work and live everyday with high levels of stress and could be found thinking a lot and figuring always figuring out what they need to do. A lot of other times, we may find that some people work better under pressure which is evident how they work under this stress. they could even be described as being smooth as silk with everything they say holds weight and meaning.

We do know that individuals handle stress differently, but what we find is that with a lot of people, there may be a breaking point where they loose hope and give up. This sometimes is also done due to frustration and being a human, we have the capacity to be short sighted, narrow minded and make rash decisions.

If we take a step back and look with a bit more insight, we will find that we always have choices, even in what seems to be a no choice situation such as if you meet in an accident, but the reality is, that there are so many choices you could have made previously that could have allowed you to avoid that choice. This is sometimes impossible to foresee, but we do have to deal with the consequence.

By giving up, it does not necessarily mean that we cannot complete our task, but it simply means that we could not see our way through it. It seems that some tasks we carry out may be above us and impossible, yet most of us does not truly understand what an impossibility is.

I believe that the choices you make lead you in a direction you choose. This direction may not always take you to where you want to be or where you find yourself, but you are there because of a choice you made yet could not understand all the implications (some we can comprehend, some we cannot). The following verse if from the Holy Quran:
"On no soul doth Allah place a burden greater than it can bear" 2:286. (This verse is also repeated in 6:152, 7:42 and 65:7).
The fact that we find ourselves with decisions and choices to make, is perhaps a reason for our creation. We feel we make right decisions and wrong decisions, but the reality after them is that we are left with what we have in front of us and we have to move on, we cannot move backwards.

To end, i feel that people who give up, really because they feel they are incompetent or hopeless, while they are in fact not, and they exist specifically to complete each task they have. Don't give up, just take some time to rethink, get yourself in a better frame of mind and move on with the pieces you have!

here today, gone tomorrow

We exist on this earth, and experience life with a certain constraint of time. We do not have a potentially unlimited time to live, neither do we know just how long we may live for. The older we grow, the more we learn, and understand. The people we become, and the people we meet, all have an effect on our lives. We see ourselves at the top of the food chain on this earth, and we take for granted the lives of people around us.

We get to know famous people about the things they do and we even record the important information from their lives. We live in a digital age, where we have learnt to record and store almost everything from words, voices, videos, pictures and even to a point actual 3-d renditions of items. We create supercomputers and digital storage farms to compute and store data, after which it is fed back to us in a neat, easy to understand format.

We are attracted to things by their colors, smell, tastes and feel. We are a species that in our understanding is superior to any of which exist on this earth and we claim it as ours. There are so many people alive on our earth now, that we can barely count the amount of people dying and being born into this world by the second.

The way we are brought up, we do not necessarily know o fall the different type of people that exist or the condition by which they have grown up, but we do have access to this information. We have access to so much information, that it would be impossible to live a normal life and at the same time cover this information effectively. What we do though is choose the type of information we want to cover, and study it. Like in school and the subjects we study, the sports we play, the types of stories we read, etc.

What I'm getting at today is that, we all have a finite time to live, and even though we know this, we do not know when our time will be up. So we might do well as to consider what we should actually be spending our time on. We do not appreciate how precious time is with relevance to our lives and how we use it. Wasting time and carrying out meaningless activities have no value. I feel that before you do something, you should think about the value that it can add to your life and the type of person it would make you.

I also feel that the most basic of things in life we should strive for, is a healthy body and a healthy mind, though accomplishing this requires a lot of dedication and resistance from a person, the attempt is just as important.

We all are here today, and not sure if we would be tomorrow. Lets make use of our time wisely. The person it should really matter to is yourself, since being on the same planet with 7 billion other people, what we do may not be anything to the other people. Lets make a difference and start with ourselves. Do what we feel is most important and useful in our lives!

a beautiful person

The definition of beauty may refer to the physical attributes of a person, that can also sometimes be further projected in their personality and character. This does not strictly apply though as we may not always find that a pretty face leads to a pretty personality. Though we do expect the most friendliest person in the room to also be the prettiest.

There are many people in this world who strive to work hard and accomplish their dreams. They have their different ways to carry this out and in effect, head towards their goals. From the simplest person we can think of such as a packer in a store working to get their wage at the end of the day to buy food to feed their family.

Knowing this we can also say that every reasoning person has ambitions that they would want to fulfill, be it simple people or very complex people. We can all appreciate that we are all driven to accomplish stuff. There may be some who disagree with the likes such as people who commit crime and are deceitful, though looking deeper, into their actual driving force and the logic used in their minds, we can then see that they as well are driven to follows their dreams.

Looking at people like artists, criminals, priests, musicians and many of the like, we can appreciate that there are a multitude of people that exist and their choices and reasons we cannot understand in the same way we appreciate and understand our own. For example, we might find it right that a priest would ask his followers to go towards martyrdom, but when we see it from the other side, we would never want a person to commit any kind of murder. For that person, the killing has a noble role for him to play, whereas for everyone around him, he is a murderer. Both facts are true but we have choice over our actions.

By understanding these kind of people, and understanding that we may not always understand and appreciate how they feel about a certain subject, we can perhaps allow ourselves to approach these kind of subjects and offer alternatives.

The path we take to achieving our goals does not have to be a single route, but it is determined by our choices. I refer to this path, as that of being a beautiful person. A beautiful person in the sense that we can look the way we feel and act. We do things with considering how we react and what our actions would mean. We would appreciate that there is a difference between people which we cannot comprehend completely, but knowing it exists should help us with our understanding, and hence make us all more beautiful.

Beauty from the inside (as we often refer to it) is important to leading a quality life.

How beautiful are you? is the path you choose to achieve your goals make you feel like a beautiful person?
Understand and appreciate yourself, this is contagious and soon others will as well.
^_^ be the beautiful person